Category Archives: transition
The wonderfully complex Hit and Miss provides a look into a transwoman’s life. The lead character also also happens to be a new parent and a contract killer. While it may seem like an improbable premise… it works. No really it does. Go with me here… I’ll explain. Mia played by Chloë Sevigny, a woman in transition, finds out she has a son and goes to locate him when his mother has recently died. Once there she realizes that all the children in the household need a parental figure. She takes on the role as reluctantly as the children.
Mia is not your average woman, mother, or neighbor. However, her work background lends itself nicely to those that would try to injure her or the family. She makes great strides to care for the kids, have a love life, and keep her job killing people separate from everything else.
There is a deeper point to this series though. I was ever so curious to see o how the show would handle her transition personally for the Mia character, with the kids, the locals, and her career. The series is painful to watch at times. I say this while still highly recommending the show. The poignant moments are woven within and worth the time to watch. It isn’t an easy process coming to accept with your body even when you are “passing” (a term I dislike but is often used). The show hints at the deeper themes that Mia had, and still has to, get through to be at the point where she is now.
Her son asks her direct questions about her body, gender, and the complexity of their relationship because of transition. You get to see the love and care she has for this child, all the while dealing with her own fears and pains of what it is like to transition. Mia’s past isn’t a simple one but the short series takes the viewer through some of the huge hurtles of transitioning.
Of course, Mia’s love life is complicated, how could it be otherwise? It becomes obvious that many people are interested in Mia romantically but how she deals with her own body and sharing the information is heart wrenching. The series doesn’t shy away from hard truths, complex layers, or real issues for someone in transition (sans contract killing). The dialogue is well written and at various times I welled up with tears. One such line was (in the trailer above) “If things didn’t change, there wouldn’t be any butterflies.”
And that is the truth about life. We are all in transition…. we are all changing. We might be scared of what change is and how it works, but through it … we are stronger better people. So if you know and love people in transition, never heard about it till now, or are just curious… I do suggest you watch the tv series Hit and Miss. It does a decent job of looking at (even if it is only scratching the surface) some of the emotional turns that a woman in transition deals with on a regular basis.
Within a therapy sessions, I work with many clients that are transgender and in various stages of transition. There is often an assumption that one has to know exactly who they are and how they want to express as they come to term with their authentic self. I respectfully disagree with this premise.
I’m not sure if I know anyone that feels they are 100% certain of who they are, what they like, and how they want to express themselves. It is possible that those people exist and I would enjoy talking with them. However, I have found that pretty much all of us are in transition.
One doesn’t have be trans, genderqueer, open, poly, into kink, interesex, lesbian, asexual, gay, or lesbian to be confused by the landscape of who you are or are becoming. Those individuals that are in transition have a leg up on everyone else, I will admit. They have the wonderful curiosity of looking at themselves and the world around them outside of tidy little boxes.
Don’t get me wrong, our current societal norms make it a tough road for trans individuals to feel comfortable. However, they have this amazing part of them, that pushes beyond to discover who they are and want to be. How glorious is it to conquer your own preconceived notions, challenge the status quo, and have the courage to live your life openly and fully!
Being transgender requires so much strength, directness, ability to navigate fear,s and live your life in a totally honest way. It isn’t easy to brave the hardship of being rejected or ridiculed…we all are scared of this. Most of us do whatever we can to not openly draw attention to ourselves because we are so afraid of this. And yet, someone in transition has to take on these fears head on daily. Impressive!
This is the point, we are all in transition. We are all a work in progress. We all are learning to tackle our fears as gracefully as possible.